The tendency to socialize is a common practice to all people. We prefer to be with other people most of the time and we need other people to act as our sounding board for problems. We cannot be alone for a long time and we need to at least talk to some one else even if only on the telephone to alleviate loneliness. Making friends is easy for some people while others have a hard time at it.
Children for instance would like to make friends and play with other children even without finding out their names. Children less concerned of their social status and prejudice that may influence them from making friends with another child. For them, all are equal. On the other hand, adults have ideas and opinions, prejudices and preferences that affect the way they relate with other people. The need to build barriers to protect one’s privacy when meeting new people is very common. This is very true during first encounters with strangers thus the saying “first impression lasts” appears to be real for them. Newcomers may feel such apprehension, the cold treatment and the hesitations. What would it take for you to avoid such impression to other people and maintain a good relationship with them?
First thing to remember is to keep an open mindset regarding meeting new people. When we meet new people, maintain that positive mind frame and consciously set aside whatever prejudices you have. This will help you be more accepting and open to new friends. The second thing to bear in mind when making new friends in a working environment is that sometimes first impressions are not precise. First impression may be lasting but they are not necessarily correct. The newcomer may not leave a good impression but we should bear in mind that they might be nervous or shy during the initial meeting.
Next is consideration on how to make new friends in giving them a chance to get to know you better and vice versa. Even if the first impression is not so favorable, it could help both of you if you would ask the common questions about life and work. In other words, initiate some small talk until you find a common topic. Besides, making friends is relatively easy to do. It is the keeping of friends that needs some effort. Even if they are just friends from work, you would still need to make an effort to be friendly. Having your co-workers as friends is not a bad thing. In fact, they are the people whom you would be in constant contact with during your working hours. Having a friendly and peaceful atmosphere at work helps productivity.
Employees in the same office can benefit from a healthy and friendly work environment because they work well better and usually get along with each other. The development of the social self-environment in an office is good practice. It also gives your superiors and managers the idea that you work well as a team.
Effective working relationships need to be worked on especially when the workers are more on the competitive side. Some managers and superiors actively cultivate a competitive work atmosphere to garner more productivity and efficient workers. The superiors believe that when there is competition, the workers try to outdo each other and they do their best work under this kind of pressure.
Despite the cultivated competitive atmosphere in a work place, you can still maintain friendly relationships with you co-workers. This is a tricky work atmosphere but when your co-workers know of your sincerity in your quest to be friendly they would be friendly also. Competition does not need to be hostile especially among friends. Workers can still be competitive while being friends. The important thing to remember in this kind of situation is that work remains in the work place and to let bygones be bygones.
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