The cliché “No man is an island” falls true to all mankind for we cannot seclude ourselves from the presence and influence of others. Successful people, as you may observe, are those individuals who associates with others - the bigger the crowd the better the advantage. However, each of us has different personalities. In this case in point, we would like to take cognizance of persons who are termed as “loners” or “introverts”. Whose social life stagnates and slowly drifts them apart from the busy streets of existence. We have to understand why some people isolate themselves from the community around them. There are so many reasons why we tend to be what we are. Some major factors are: our family circle, our community, and our peers.
First we should see what influence these three factors have on us. Our family – the immediate family post the greatest power over our being. They are the first pillars of our emotional and spiritual strengths, physical well-being and mental dexterity. Our community – this includes our environment or our surroundings, the church, the school, the workplace. They are the people who comprise the biggest number that we have to deal with, as we grow older. Our peers – they are the people we choose to have keen relationship with. They are the persons to whom we unfasten our inner thoughts and feelings and comfortably rest our woes and worries.
Second, upon identifying the influence they have in our lives we should think over and analyze the resultant effects. Have they in some way or the other hindered your growth? Did you encounter daunting occurrences? Or, on the positive, have you experience constructive reinforcements that made you an attractive person?
The “loners” or the “introverts” may in some cases and in some points of their lives, experienced being habitually embarrassed and degraded, left alone by unexpected and tragic events, and other instances where the attack is personality debilitating. Most especially if those happened in the early formative years of life where comprehension and tolerance are not yet solidly formed. You should try to reflect and point-out the grounds that made negative imprints on you.
Third, if the resultant effects have been identified, there should be ways on how to overcome and find remedies on the negative effects that weigh you down. This is not an overnight self-overhaul. You can find initial solace in books where you will chance upon great men who overcame inner hindrances for success. Since peers are not like family who are prearranged, try to be with those who have positive outlooks and those who are socially involved individuals but are not too imposing. Rather, they should be more inspiring to you and bring out slowly your interest to mingle and share life with others.
Each of us should cultivate our social self-environment to achieve better living. Definitely there is something within us that others do not have because each of us is unique. We have to accept and know how to overcome our weaknesses and learn to put forward and exercise our strengths. We should also gain knowledge of how we can blend well and patch differences with other personalities. Remember, there is affluence in social interaction, this is not to speak only of the material gains there is to it but the richness of experience that will deepen your spirituality, mind-set or outlook and the influence you will have on others. Slowly but firmly get out of your shell. Try not to focus on one direction only. Bring life to your way of living and put action to your thoughts. This way you will see the transformation in you and the affirmative consequences of your actions that will be projected in your family, community or workplace. Don’t go unnoticed - socialize!
Dennis Hampton is a Social Media Consultant who specializes in teaching Business Owners and Internet Marketers how to leverage the Internet and Social Media sites to help build a larger list, improve their relationship with their list, increase exposure to their list, and do this all automatically. Check out his blog at: "Dennis Hampton's blog - Any Business Made Easy"
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