The Development of the Social Self
There is no doubt that men and women long for a greater social self with rewarding ways. This can only be accomplished if both parties are willing to give and exert their every effort. The social self-development is not an easy process, but it can become a lot easier if men and women first learn to know themselves.
Know Yourself It isn’t surprising to hear of people getting irritated when told they need to know themselves before investing in a relationship. This is very important. Knowing yourself is very shallow. Nowhere has it ever been mentioned that to know yourself you need guidance or the help of a minister. Down the road of any relationship if you don’t take the time out of your schedule to know yourself you may find a psychiatrist giving you advice. In every social environment it is important to realize the value of a relationship. The social environment is very impersonal and crowded. This often leads many to ask whatever happened to love? It is very unrealistic to know oneself. This is a process that is ongoing. Your friends only know you to a certain degree. In order to have a caring relationship with others, it is necessary to have a caring relationship with yourself first. One must be willing to share in order for others to return in sharing. Not being able to disclose ones self as being imperfect may leave a sense of insecurity in a relationship. Men and women need to be realistic about them in order to have self-growth or acceptance of others. No matter how much you may feel you care for someone else, the first primary goal is to be responsible to one self. Only then can you give to another. If you feel out of place or victimized, then you have no power to give another security or visibility in a relationship. Often others see you in a different perspective than you see yourself. Have you ever thought of asking yourself, “If you were living with yourself would you stick around?” Most men and women have never stopped to think of an answer to this. Maybe before entering a relationship this should be answered. In relationships it not always the big problems that makes the relationship fail. It generally is the small things over a period of time that causes the breakdown. Irreconcilable differences can be things as simple as ones behavior, cruel acts, or maybe a comment you made without thinking. Feelings are not to be played with in a relationship. Simple gestures such as interrupting when the other is talking, never picking up behind yourself, simply being set in your own ways can cause relationship breakdown. The above gestures may mean nothing to you. If you are involved in a relationship and these remarks were to continue, they could and would destroy a relationship. Many relationships fail due to the lack of wanting to change. This could be true on either side. Why is so important to have everything your way? If a relationship is worth having, it is worth changing some of your everyday ways for. There is nothing a better than to see a couple walks into a room and everyone automatically turns their focus to them. The joy and love between them lightens up the entire room. Happiness and a sense of surprise can bring on much anticipation. Many find it very hard to deal with the predictable and settle for the familiar. This has become a major trap in relationships. What happened to just letting things happen?
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